how to become anyone you want (spoilers: you already are)
When you shift your beliefs, you shift your identity - and your reality.
I like to talk to myself out loud in the shower. It’s something I’ve started doing recently and it has increased the quality of my downloads tenfold. Today’s download: life is a play about the relationship you have with yourself.
As a spiritual being having a physical experience, I am playing the role of Kristina and living out her 3-dimensional life with her own set of gifts, challenges, canon events, etc. This dimension is not easy, but it’s the best way to learn, grow, integrate soul lessons, and release karma. We can explore that stuff in another post.
In this post, I want to share what I’ve learned this spring about shifting your identity and your reality, which could arguably be called manifestation, and ultimately tied to inner child healing (as most things are) and a direct result of doing shadow work.
One of my biggest resolutions coming into 2026 was talking myself on more walks. For many years, I’ve had trouble getting myself outside without an explicit purpose. Getting from point A to B was basically what felt safe to me when left to my own devices, and leaving my house for a little meander was absolutely unheard of. It definitely had to do with my fear of being perceived, and feelings around self worth and giving myself permission to just exist.
Once I got to the root of those wounds, I began to heal and gained new desires. Glimmers of my new identity, unweighted by those pesky limiting beliefs! All of a sudden, I decided this was the year I got serious about upping my daily step count.
It’s just a walk - such an easy sounding task! So why did it feel like the hardest thing in the world?!
Frustrated, I began scribbling out my thoughts to get to the root of my dissonance. I realized my blockage stemmed from the transition between my old identity structure (generated by old core beliefs) to a completely new one (new core beliefs). In other words, I was processing the desire to “go outside for a walk” from my old core beliefs that naturally carried resistance to it.
I needed to fully detach from core beliefs that no longer aligned, and consciously restructure and nurture attributes of my new identity.
I began by listing out facts: walking makes me feel good, I like how walking makes me feel during, the fresh air feels really nice, I always get a lot of new ideas and revelations, I love how I feel after!
This simple exercise helped illuminate the disparity between the truth of how I feel vs. behavioral output from old programming. Because I fully meant all of those things - walking makes me feel great, and I want to do it more - so the only thing coming between me and claiming those truths… was me.
My monthly and yearly average step count has already increased a ton, which is a huge win for me!
Excerpt from my notebook that day (I was honestly mindblown):
“Even though I love walking, my old beliefs/programming kept a high level of resistance to the activity. I hadn’t integrated my new beliefs into my identity and the struggle was confusing and made me feel bad when i couldn’t achieve the walk, even though it was actually just my old programming running perfectly the way it always has. So going on walks with old programming was a huge breakthrough and testament to my will.”
You don’t magically make new habits. You consciously shift into the version of you who does everything you aspire to do.
Another personal example just for fun, because it’s a good day. I had a boyfriend once who, to be completely honest, was constantly giving me the ick. I knew deep down that it was a red flag (so many red flags), but I was in my fuck it era. Instead of facing the hard truth, I decided to double down. My thought process went something like - “There are all kinds of people in the world with partners who love them for who they are. I am the problem, not him.” With this twisted logic, I literally brainwashed myself into shifting into a version of myself that loved all the things that were previously icks.
Warning: do not EVER do this!!!!
Once I changed my core belief into thinking I was the problem, my entire reality changed. Unfortunately it worked a little too well, but it ended up being a catalyst for one of my major lessons during my Saturn return (AKA it was much needed and I’m better for it lol). That period of my life is so wild, because I don’t recognize that version of me at all. Running on the “I am the problem” program comes with an enormous cost - I began letting myself get nitpicked by a jealous, insecure loser, effectively running my self confidence to the ground. When things eventually came to a head, it required a complete ego death and so much shadow work. I needed a complete system reboot to heal, which took around a year and half.
Moral of the story: you can use this power to shift into whoever you want, for whatever purpose or goal you desire. However, I recommend careful consideration of your intentions before committing to the bit. Is your desired shift a result of healing your inner child, or a plea for external validation?
Your current life is a past identity’s projection. You yourself are always whole, and always have been.
In that sense, no part of your current life is a mistake - it’s a delayed manifestation of a past version of you running old core beliefs. Use this data to understand what you’d prefer/not prefer to manifest moving forward, and send love and compassion to past versions of you.
And coming full circle, let me remind you of today’s download: life is a play about the relationship you have with yourself.
Will you recognize that you are whole? Or will you fight the unbecoming?